Mental Heuristics  

Friday, February 22, 2008


If you want something done, do it yourself

Comment: Obviously true, and doing it is usually very good for your self esteem. A surprising amount of work can be done this way, and experts are not always necessary. However, there is a risk of becoming overworked if you try to do everything yourself - we all need other people after all.

Never procrastinate anything you can do right now

Comment: Very powerful. There are many things that can be fixed or solved with a minimum of effort, but are often pushed aside as unimportant. Unfortunately they won't go away, and in time the feelings of guilt for not having done them will make you even less likely of fixing the problems.

When you have several things you could be doing and don't know which to do: Just do any one of them!

Comments: If you cannot decide between two or more possibilities, then there is a good chance that the differences don't matter. However, most people begin to hesitate in this kind of situation (Fredkin's paradox). If you are conscious of this, you can just choose one choice randomly or according to some standard method.

Always assume that you will succeed

Comments: If you don't expect to succeed in an endeavor, then you will not do your best and will not notice possible solutions, while if you feel that you will eventually succeed you will concentrate all your power at the problem. Of course, there is no point in attempting what you cannot do, a certain amount of self-knowledge is always needed.

If you can't find a solution, change the rules.

Comment: Remember that there are no no-win scenarios.

If you cannot do anything about something, there is no point in worrying about it.

Comment: Worrying is stressful, and in most situations doesn't accomplish anything - it just wastes energy. Instead of worrying about things, either do something about them or find ways around the problem. One useful idea is to write down your worries on slips of paper, and then put them away in a box. Regularly, once a week or so, you open the box and see what you can do about the worries that are still relevant.

Do not rely on conscious decisions for speed - Just Do It

Comments: The conscious mind is surprisingly slow, conscious choices and actions are delayed for a significant time (a reflex acts within some tens of milliseconds, an unconscious reaction to external stimuli circa 100 milliseconds and a conscious choice several seconds). The duty of the conscious mind is usually to inhibit rather than start action, and if you become too conscious of what you are doing in a tense situation you will hesitate or slow down.

It is a good idea to learn to rely on your non-conscious mind, since our conscious mind is slow and has very low bandwidth while the other systems in our brains have a tremendous capacity and actually do most of the real work anyway.


Don't try to explain away your actions for yourself

Comment: While we often do things we do not want to explain our real motivations for before other people (out of fear of embarrassment, anger or loss of image), it is a bad idea to try to convince oneself that the motivation was anything different from what it was. It will only reduce your self-knowledge with deliberate misinformation, and it is often valuable to understand what motivations you have (even if you dislike them or would never admit them in public).

Listen to your intuition, but do not believe it unconditionally

Comments: Intuitive or emotional thinking, analogies, "gut feelings" or "flashes of inspiration" can sometimes give fantastic new insights or show problems from a new direction. Unfortunately such thinking isn't always reliable, and quite often completely wrong! Such insights should never be accepted because you admire their beauty or they are intuitive, only because they fit with reality.

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Long Island Iced Tea  

The Long Island Iced Tea is the basis of many elaborate mixed-drinks. It dates to the 70's, named after the USA's largest island, Long Island, in New York. Although it doesn't contain tea, it's taste is similar. The drink sits in the top 5 of most popular cocktails and is regularly mentioned or seen served in television and films.
1 part vodka
1 part tequila
1 part rum
1 part gin
1 part triple sec
1 1/2 part sweet and sour mix
1 splash Coca-Cola®

Mix ingredients together over ice in a glass. Pour into a shaker and give one brisk shake. Pour back into the glass and make sure there is a touch of fizz at the top. Garnish with lemon.

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Getting Prayers Answered  

Thursday, February 21, 2008

Why do some people get their prayers answered--and I don't? Have you ever wondered that? Have you ever wished that you could have a closer touch with God?

When you have a problem, you may talk with some special Christian about it. "Pray for me," you ask. If anyone can get an answer from God, you figure that person can.

But there's no reason why all Christians can't have the power with God that the Scriptures promise. For the Lord certainly loves every one of His children for whom He paid the supreme sacrifice. If you are His child through faith in Christ, that includes you.

What conditions does God's Word set down for answered prayer? Let's look at them.

  1. Repentance is necessary. Second Chronicles 7:14 says, "If my people, who are called by my name, will humble themselves and pray and seek my face and turn from their wicked ways, then will I hear from heaven and will forgive their sin and heal their land."

    Obviously sin keeps prayers from getting answered. But did you know that bitterness, resentment, bad temper, anger, and harsh words can come between us and God? The Bible says such things grieve the Holy Spirit. How can we make things right? First John 1:9 says, "If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness." When we are cleansed, we can look for answered prayers.

  2. Righteousness is necessary. James 5:16-b says, "The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective." Following this statement, God gave us an example of Elijah, whose prayer was answered. Elijah prayed it wouldn't rain, and it didn't rain for over three years! When he prayed for rain, down it came.

    Righteousness refers to a daily, steady walk with the Lord. We try not to let anything come between us and Him. God had first place in Elijah's heart, as He probably does in the hearts of those we ask for prayer. In their lives we see Christ; when others see Him in us, they'll be asking us for prayer.

  3. Forgiveness is necessary. Jesus said that when we pray, if we hold anything against anyone, we are to forgive that person; then God can forgive our trespasses (Mark 11:25).

    Sherry was sorry for things she had done wrong, so she asked the Lord to forgive her. But when she finished praying, guess what Sherry still held in her heart? Bitterness, anger, hostility...and unforgiveness toward a relative who had hurt her. Then she wondered why she still didn't feel right with God!

    Hard to forgive some people for the way they have hurt us? Sure it is--for us! But I have found it possible to do so by holding such destructive, self-centered feelings up to my Lord and saying, "Lord, take these hurtful things. I don't want them any more. Cleanse me. I just want your peace, joy, and love. I forgive everybody! "When I feel God's peace, I know I can pray.

  4. Obedience is necessary. We read in First John 3:22, "...And [we] receive from him anything we ask, because we obey his commands and do what pleases him."

    Obedience is the trademark of a righteous person. And obedience entails more than just conforming to a nice little set of cut-and-dried rules. It is part of being turned into the Holy Spirit. That's where doing "those things that are pleasing in his sight" comes in.

    God's two great commandments call for love, and they cover every relationship and every circumstance: "Love the Lord your God with all your heart, soul, and mind....Love your neighbor as yourself" (Matthew 22:37-39).

    God's command also lie in principles His Word sets forth, such as "So whether you eat or drink or whatever you do, do it all for the glory of God" (1 Corinthians 10:31).

    Obedience to God isn't hard when we truly love Him and others.

  5. Sincerity is necessary. Jeremiah 29:13 says, "You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart."
  6. Agreement is helpful. Jesus said, "Again, I tell you that if two of you on earth agree about anything you ask for, it will be done for you by my Father in heaven."
  7. Persistence is helpful. Ephesians 6:18 says, "And pray in the Spirit on all occasions with all kinds of prayers and requests". With this in mind, be alert and always keep on praying for all saints.
  8. Faith is necessary. Hebrews 11:6 says, "And without faith it is impossible to please God, because anyone who comes to him must believe that he exists and that he rewards those who earnestly seek him."

    When I'm praying, I often claim the promise that Jesus gave His followers: "Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours" (Mark 11:24).

Do you really believe God can work in the lives of unsaved and backslidden loved one's life in answer to your prayers? Do you believe God can help you work out your problems, help you get a job, pays the bills, get along with cantankerous relatives, co-workers, or neighbors?

Then stand back and watch God work as you pray! It will thrill you!

And here's a great promise you might like to memorize: "Delight yourself in the LORD and he will give you the desires of your heart. Commit your way to the LORD, and he will do this" (Psalm 37:4-5).

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Quote for the Day  

Thursday, February 7, 2008

If a man will begin with certainties, he shall end in doubts; but if he will be content to begin with doubts he shall end in certainties.--Sir Francis Bacon
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Early February  

Wednesday, February 6, 2008

Good morning. The last time I wrote the update was middle of January. And it seems like evenings often find me doing other things than writing lengthy email like this one. Like looking up Facebook and reading interesting tidbits. Some of my friends apparently forget that I hardly have time to read their emails, especially one sure forward me so much at one time which is often daily than not, that I decided to make special folder for all his emails since he rarely send anything of urgent importance. Even I knew that, I still check that folder to see if there is any which I should be reading now. And then when I have time, I would relax and then read all emails. I won't be surprised if they are much of forwards that someone happened across an interesting tidbits off Internet.

I'm bit unwell this morning. I'm not sure what's causing my head to be hot. Was it because I had too much food last night and no pills to recompense it?  Or was it because my body is missing some Superfood that I had been taking for a long time?  Whatever the case, I hope it won't mean upcoming sinus or flu. I don't enjoy the discomfort of those illness, but of course, enjoying eating what I always eat can affect my health and splurging a bit on fudge beside. Bummer.

The last I wrote I spoke of planning to go to Ohio that weekend. We did, and it went so well. I met Cameron Martin there, a friend of my friend. I recall the slogan I came across few years ago; a friend of my friend is my friend. It's specially true in this case. Perky and bouncy Cameron had me under his little finger in no time. So willing to interpret messages for me at Messiah Bible School and had me feeling at ease to browse the dorm full of strangers. I'm thankful to meet him, a friend and an interpreter of my Canadian friend, Edward Burkholder. He interpret fairly well...in Signing Exact English. He can express facially well too. And to make my world smaller, I met friends that remember me from many years ago, like my trip to Dominican Republic over my 16th birthday. Plus those remember me being their brother's friend or classmate from MBS!

While at MBS, I got an email from my second cousin, Durrel Eby, notifying me that he got his own personal email.  I was excited to find that his email is Gmail!  And he did attended MBS with me years ago. I guess I'm Google fan so much that I was went ecatastic when my friends get Gmail. The biggest reason is that I can then chat with them and get my chat history saved in my Gmail account. No matter where I'm online, blackberry or computer, my chat history will be saved. Now AIM is integrated into Gmail and that chat history would be saved as well, but only if I'm in Gmail, not blackberry or anywhere else. But what I do is if I chat online on my blackberry, then I email the chat history to myself then that history get saved into my account. That would do--for now.

I fail to mention about the renovation that is going on around here at my work. They are hoping to get better system, a better washer and longer dryer, so we would have less losses. They took down the wall that divides the primer booth from the warehouse. Not much more done yet other than moving the the burners outside. I'm kind of looking forward to time when they would be all done. They assumed it may be 3 months till completion.

After MBS, we went to Rachel Raber's house. We had a lively discussion about subject that interest all of us. Since CDI had videos from Personality Insights and since Janet and I read the book of same subject, we sure enjoy talking about ourselves and each other. Rachel talked about handwriting analyst, and I have heard of that before. We had good time visiting for that Sunday afternoon. And I gained few new thoughts.

We got home safe but late that night. I didn't get home until 1 AM the next morning but was surprised that I didn't feel groggy that day at work. I went to bed good and early that evening so I was feeling fine rest of the week.

The following weekend find me in Fulton Opera House, enjoying the play: Bus Stop. I ran in a bit late because of Paul. It sure wasn't easy to trying to make life easier for everyone when you have your own life to consider. But thankfully, everything ends well that day.

First weekend of February. I felt bit too restraining because I want to see that store near Philly and Leon and Amy want to see me that evening. Wait is not the quality they prize, so I decided to try to find time to go to that store.

That was Friday evening. Perhaps God have the reason to allow Leon and Amy to take away my evening because it was raining winter. Never know that somewhere between here and Philly may have some ice spots that may send my car spinning.

Saturday finds me all day with Paula and Lisa B. I felt honored that they want to have me dressed according to the style they prefer to see me in. I even went on and got new outfit of my pick.

From now on, I should buy one outfit at a time, so I won't have many of shirts. I still have more shirts than pants, so I would have to buy pants, one at a time. Some shirts were given to me, so that isn't surprising.

Saturday evening finds me enjoying illusions at Manor Church. Kym is a good interpreter and we all were enthralled by magician's tricks on our eyes. He really had a good point when it come to eggs. We saw how he stuffed the black handichief in his fist and then show us the egg, making it look like that handichief turned into an egg. Then he showed us the hole where the handichief got in. He talked about emptiness without Christ. Then suddenly he talked about fullness with Christ and squashed an egg into a bowl showing white and yolk. The magician's skills are excellent. Then we had ice cream afterwards and had nice time visiting.

Sunday had me at Martindale Mennonite Church and Luke Martin, whose brother is deaf, preached. It was good to hear his preaching, and then we had nice time fellowshiping over a good meal that noon.

I just now got a reply from a friend who I met through my Writer's Workshop by email years ago. She replied to my Christmas letter and she is very positive and cautious. I was glad to hear from her. I sure wonder how old she is, but it sounds like she is past 50 or maybe even 60.

I'm working after my mid-afternoon break. I'm puzzled why we quit early on Monday and then we had to work thru mis-afternoon break today. It don't really make sense to me, and it kind of nettles me. I must have enough "C" personality that had to have everything orderly. Or was it my sister's fault that I turn out like that?  Whatever the case, I'm glad I'm like this because studies show that orderly people tend to have positive chance in life than those who live by default.

Wow, it is so nice to see that I can do well on my blackberry writing out this update.  So I wonder if there is a way I can put group emails in my addressbook.  Since Andy write email to me occasionally, I figured he would enjoy reading my emails.  He is deaf and blind, so I am sure he would enjoy something extra to read.  And I also decided to include Jean Pichiya from Tennessee, as she mentions I could do some proof-reading for her.  I would enjoy that job, although my criticism wouldn't count very well in Christian Light Publications, but at least she could get a feedback from other reader.  And I figured she would enjoy reading my updates too.  I decided to secretly remove Lisa Ciccarelli from my newsletter list, because I felt I am too exposed to her.  She ask drilling questions, or so I felt.  I am sure she has no evil intentions, and I can tell she is much like my sister, Susan.  With "D" in their personality, they tend to ask questions that I, with my "S" personality, HAD to answer NOW, not later when I feel more comfortable to share.  After all, if Lisa would read my notes in my Facebook, she would read this too; but she is not Facebook addict like I am, so I have no fear of her finding out.  (Note: those who don't understand what I mean in personalities can look at www.personalityinsights.com or read the book, "Who Do You Think You Are....Anyway?")

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--
Omar Burkholder
1091 Martindale Road
Ephrata, PA 17522

Email:  deafdemophile@gmail.com
Fax:     1-888-580-1767

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IF  

If you can keep your head when all about you
Are losing theirs and blaming it on you,
If you can trust yourself when all men doubt you
But make allowance for their doubting too,
If you can wait and not be tired by waiting,
Or being lied about, don't deal in lies,
Or being hated, don't give way to hating,
And yet don't look too good, nor talk too wise:

If you can dream--and not make dreams your master,
If you can think--and not make thoughts your aim;
If you can meet with Triumph and Disaster
And treat those two impostors just the same;
If you can bear to hear the truth you've spoken
Twisted by knaves to make a trap for fools,
Or watch the things you gave your life to, broken,
And stoop and build 'em up with worn-out tools:

If you can make one heap of all your winnings
And risk it all on one turn of pitch-and-toss,
And lose, and start again at your beginnings
And never breath a word about your loss;
If you can force your heart and nerve and sinew
To serve your turn long after they are gone,
And so hold on when there is nothing in you
Except the Will which says to them: "Hold on!"

If you can talk with crowds and keep your virtue,
Or walk with kings--nor lose the common touch,
If neither foes nor loving friends can hurt you;
If all men count with you, but none too much,
If you can fill the unforgiving minute
With sixty seconds' worth of distance run,
Yours is the Earth and everything that's in it,
And--which is more--you'll be a Man, my son!

--Rudyard Kipling
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